There is a proverb that says, “If you think you are leading and no one is following you, then you are only taking a walk.” We may wonder why people are not responding well to our leadership. The reason may stem from certain attitudes and actions we allow in our lives. Today’s blog lists 12 attributes that diminish our influence on others.

LET’S TALK

Originally posted by Ron Edmondson (reposted by permission).
I decided to compile a list of some of the most potent killers I’ve observed. Any one of these can squelch good leadership. It’s like a wrecking ball of potential. If not addressed, they may even prove to be fatal.
It’s not that the person can’t continue to lead, but to grow as a leader — to be successful at a higher level or long-term — they must address these 12 killers.
Defensiveness – Good leaders don’t wear their feelings on their shoulders. They know other’s opinions matter and aren’t afraid to be challenged. They are confident enough to absorb the wounds intended to help them grow.
Jealousy – A good leader enjoys watching others on the team excel — even willing to help them.
Revenge – The leader that succeeds for the long-term must be forgiving; graceful — knowing that “getting even” only comes back to harm them and the organization.
Fearfulness – A good leader remains committed when no one else is and takes risks no one else will. Others will follow. It is what leaders do.
Favoritism – Good leaders don’t have favorites on the team. They reward for results not partiality.
Ungratefulness – Good leaders value people — genuinely — knowing they cannot attain success without others.
Small-mindedness – Good leaders think bigger than today. They are dreamers and idea people.
Pridefulness – Pride comes before the fall. Good leaders remain humbled by the position of authority entrusted to them.
Rigidity – There are some things to be rigid about, such as values and vision, but for most issues, the leader must be open to change. Good leaders are welcome new ideas, realizing that most everything can be improved.
Laziness – One can’t be a good leader and not be willing to work hard. In fact, the leader should be willing to be the hardest worker on the team.
Unresponsiveness – Good leaders don’t lead from behind closed doors. They are responsive to the needs and desires of those they attempt to lead. They respond to concerns and questions. They collaborate more than control. Leaders who close themselves off from those they lead will limit the places where others will follow.
Dishonesty – Since character counts highest, a good leader must be above reproach. When a leader fails, he or she must admit their mistake and work towards restoration.

BEFORE YOU GO

A leader may struggle with one or more of these, but the goal should be to lead “killer-free.” Leader, be honest, which of these do you struggle with most?
What would you add to my list?