The Value of Your Valentine

(For Guys Only) Here is my best advice for a better marriage: Value your Valentine!  This is the litmus test. I can tell you how your relationship is going with your wife by how much you value her, period.  Guys, the reason your wife married you is that she felt valued by you. And I…

Social Media Etiquette & Ethics

Social Media is here is stay. We can’t ignore it. 79% of Americans have some kind of social profile. It is something we need to utilize in communicating with the church and the world around us. However, just like any tool, it can be used for good, or it can be used to destroy. LET’S…

One Essential for Effectiveness

We’ve started 2020 with the challenge to slow down and reflect. Take time to pray and plan. Don’t rush into this new year (see New Year blogs). However, failure is inevitable if all we had were good intentions and plans.  There is one essential we must possess in order to be effective – it is…

Clarity for the Church in 2020

Planning and goal-setting are good things. That old saying is true – “If we aim at nothing, we’ll hit it every time.” Planning is good because God plans. The Bible says that He has plans to help you succeed and give you hope (Jeremiah 29:11). We are called to work with Him in what he…

Give Thanks to Whom?

Our “thanks” in Thanksgiving Day was traditionally directed towards God. Its roots date back to the Pilgrims, who thanked God for His protection through a bitter winter and a bountiful harvest. Thanksgiving Day was declared as an annual holiday by President Abraham Lincoln in 1863 amid a Civil War, which I find incredible! Sadly, in…

Lapses in Leadership

Getting as old as I am, I get a chance to look back on my ministry and leadership. A few weeks ago, I shared about “making mistakes.” We all make them. What’s that saying, Hindsight is 20/20?  It’s true! There are many times I could have done things better and, yes, even differently. LET’S TALK…

Dealing With Conflict

Conflict happens. In fact, it should. Someone said if two people always agree, then one isn’t needed. Today’s blog was originally posted by David Kraft. Knowing how to deal openly and honestly with conflict with coworkers, friends, and family is critical to good leadership. LET’S TALK Here is Dave’s approach to dealing with conflict: Do…

How to Treat a Parishioner

A couple of weeks ago, I blogged about “How to Treat a Pastor.” Recently someone asked me to write about “How to treat a parishioner!” I have a considerable disadvantage because I’ve been involved in ministry for so long as a pastor.  However, in my own interactions and relationship with people, I’ll give it my…

Ministering to Families of Suicide

By Linda Myers Our hearts go out to the family of Pastor Jarrid Wilson who took his life last week. It is very difficult to navigate all the emotions associated with the grief of someone who dies by suicide. First, the family has suddenly lost a loved one and second, they died horrifically. Emotions range…

How to Treat a Pastor

Many have lost trust and respect for leadership. That includes anyone in authority. Police. Teachers. Government officials. And, yes, even pastors. Frankly, some have abused their power and failed us. That’s tragic. LET’S TALK However, most pastors are in ministry because they are called by God and genuinely love people. We need to guard their…

Organized to Death

Whether we like it or not, those of us who are pastors work within the confines of “organized religion.” Part of it comes out of necessity. We have programs to plan, buildings to maintain, and budgets to meet.  However, when our focus shifts from ministry to maintenance, we lose our way! Judson Edwards, in his…

Hitting a Home Run Sermon

Believe it or not, I’ve often reflected how well my sermon went by using baseball terms. Most of my preaching, I think I get to first or second base and even scored a run once in a while! However, there have been times I’ve hit a foul ball or two, and yes, there are times…